Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Looking for Mr. Right

Read this if you are looking for “Mr. Right.” - Book Reviewed by Kelli Glesige

Read this if you are looking for “Mr. Right.”, February 8, 2006 Reviewer: Reader Views “” (Austin, Texas) Reviewed by Kelli Glesige for Reader Views (2/06)

Many of us have the impression that meeting people over the internet is very dangerous and should be avoided at all costs. Most of us would never tell someone looking for a date to search for one through an online dating website. However, Cherie Burbach may just change your mind about e-dating if you follow her advice and take the precautions she shares.

If you’ve tried dating through the traditional means and have found no success, maybe you should look at things in a new perspective. Cherie Burbach found herself to be 36 years old and single with a career she found satisfying. Something was missing however, because she really hoped for a husband and family someday. She finally decided to give e-dating a try and ultimately found the man she is currently happily married to. In her book, Cherie also tells us of her experiences, both good and bad, and offers her views on how to make the whole e-dating process safe, fun and successful.

Most of us probably feel that dating in and of itself is not for the faint of heart, so e-dating can be an even scarier proposition. If you are still hoping to meet that special someone, it is important to be a complete person all on your own first. Time spent alone will help you to know what you really want so that when you meet someone, you will have a good idea if they are “Mr. Right”, not just Mr. Right “for now”. You will only be wasting time if you don’t know what you are looking for.

Before reading “At the Coffee Shop,” all my feelings about internet dating were negative. However, after reading the book, if I were in the situation of wanting to find a lasting relationship with someone and I had tried other means of dating without success, I would give internet dating a try.

Internet dating has the distinct advantage in that everyone at the site is looking to meet someone. There is much more control because you choose who you want to see, what time of day or night you want to look for a compatible profile, if you want to e-date just a little or more often, and you can take a break or even stop whenever you want. Cherie stresses that you NEVER give your address or name for safety sake, and if you ever feel uncomfortable online, block someone out and move on, especially if someone can’t take a hint or just “creeps” you out.

“At the Coffee Shop” got its name because Cherie feels a coffee shop is the perfect setting to initially meet someone to see if you might be interested in seeing the person again. A coffee shop is a public place which is a MUST.

It is convenient and comfortable for both people, there is no pressure to carry things further with the uncertainty of whether or not to buy dinner, and it is easy to get up and leave if things aren’t going well or stay and talk if you hit it off with this person. Limiting the initial meeting to one hour beforehand is a suggestion to help make the meeting more successful.

Although Ms. Burbach feels that internet dating is the easiest and most reliable way to meet people you will click with, she also states that any relationship involving interaction will take work to make it successful. You will meet nice guys, but just like in real life, you will also meet some goofs. “Internet dating is not for lonely freaks that can’t find a date-it’s for anyone that has yet to find the right person.” If you are still looking to meet “Mr. Right,” I would suggest reading this book!

Cherie Burbach is the author of two books of poetry, The Difference Now, and A New Dish, as well as At the Coffee Shop, a humorous look at the world of Internet dating. Cherie works as a consultant for PersonalsTrainer in which she helps online daters write great profiles that catch attention. Watch for her new novel, FOR THOSE WHO KNEW ZACH, coming soon. For more information, please visit her website at

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